One of the burning questions everyone faces is, “Who should I date?”  It ranks right up there with other burning questions like, “What is my calling?” and,  “Who actually listens to the Black Eyed Peas?”

First off, let’s talk about one major thing… just like in the rest of your life, God has a plan for you. He gave you certain callings in life.  He’s given other people certain callings.

Now do you think God would give you a set of callings, just to pair you up with someone else that would negate all your callings? Like if God had called you to be a long-term missionary to Africa, would He pair you up with someone He set up to be a long-term missionary to New Jersey?  No. Why would God work against His own goals?

When you get married, you’re not just joining two lives into one.  You’re also joining two sets of callings into one. Your God-given callings have to be compatible with the other person’s callings or else you actually hinder their callings – which really is causing them to be disobedient.

If God called you to be fire, He wouldn’t pair you up with ice.  If God made you water, He wouldn’t pair you with oil.  If God made you The Black Eyed Peas, He wouldn’t pair you up with listenable music.

If your potential spouse has a specific calling that is incompatible with yours, how could you allow your feelings for them override their obedience to God?

Yeah, we all would like to think that ‘love conquers all’.  But you don’t just marry because you fall in love with someone. There’s more to a marriage than love for a human. Because really, who is your first love?  God should be placed first. Who do you love more?  God or some dude/girl?  And if you love that person more than God – aren’t you making them out to be an idol?

So what do we do?

So as you’re looking for that perfect person, make sure that what you really are doing is trying to find the person that God has constructed for you – where your callings complement one another rather than compete with one another. Love God first, so that you can find that one on this earth that you can truly love in a deep, godly, non-Black Eyed Peas listening, life-fulfilling way.

MT 22:37 Jesus replied: ” `Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ [38] This is the first and greatest commandment.

Take time to pray: Ask God that you’ll love Him first so that your relationships will be godly and happy. Today’s Fruit of the Spirit: Love.